|Playing in the fountain at the Tracy Aviary last week.|
For the past little while I have had three specific mantras resonating in my heart to help guide me through this time of my life. I thought I’d share them with you all in case they can inspire you, too.
1. Go where you are celebrated, not tolerated.
I am a firm believer of only surrounding yourself with people who love and appreciate you. Ain’t no one got time for drama, am I right? Yes. Life is just too short to subject yourself to negative people who can’t see how awesome you are. Especially after getting married and having children, I understand the value of surrounding yourself with people who just think you are the greatest person in the world (like my husband and kid think I am). It’s an awesome feeling, even if you secretly know you’re most definitely not even close to the greatest person in the world. What they don’t know can’t hurt them, and it certainly doesn’t hurt me!
2. What you allow is what will continue.
This mainly goes for parenting, but has also influenced some aspects of my relationships. James is at a very tender age where he is just inhaling everything there is to learn about this great big world and how to act in it. I feel it is my duty to help him learn, and catching negative behavior early on, even at his very young age, and explaining when it is and isn’t appropriate will help him not continue it as he grows. Some people might criticize me for expecting too much from my baby, but unless you experiment with different approaches you will never know what they truly understand. I have found that with James, he understands way more than others would think, so I can talk to him and reason with him to a degree and teach him about what I will and will not tolerate. It’s definitely a child by child, and even parent by parent thing, but we have learned what works for us and what James responds to. And I think he’s happier for learning how to manage his behavior appropriately.
3. If it isn’t beautiful to you, useful to you, or sentimental to you, get rid of it.
We have decided to stay in our little one bedroom, 900 square foot apartment for the next year instead of moving to a bigger place. We’ve invested in some adorable Ikea wardrobes for more storage and have purged a LOT of our stuff that just takes up space, and it has helped me appreciate the beauty in simplicity. I’ve just gotten kinda crazy with the minimal-izing, and it has been so great for us! We actually have EXTRA storage space in our little apartment now! I will say I have turned into somewhat of a master of using small spaces (because of necessity….that’s all we’ve had up to this point, after all) and we are so comfortable in our little home. And I only have things in my home that I absolutely love. So everywhere I turn, I’m happy! There are no huge projects looming over my head or secret storage closets full of junk. Just 900 square feet of joy and beauty.
And there you have it. I have definitely been blessed by these attitudes and I hope they can help anyone who might be struggling. What are your mantras that help you stay sane and grounded? Tell me here!