we miss you uncle james!

Brothers James, John William, Marshall, Tanner about 2003
Six years ago today the unthinkable happened to my precious family, and only a few short weeks after bringing home a new sister from China (news story).  It’s been a unique experience for me to be introduced into this family after this tragedy happened and to observe my in-laws as they have endured the pain and sombre heartache that accompanies such things.  But if I have learned one thing from them and the way they have handled this, it is that I know that hard things can be done, and sometimes they just have to be.  My family have given me the insight, the courage, the strength, and the faith to know that I can do hard things with dignity and grace.  Their bravery has inspired me to be brave, too, no matter what comes.  It has been indescribably hard on them, no doubt.  But my heart has been continually tenderized as I watch my family honor James’ life by still living theirs, and by letting this whole experience build their faith in God instead of letting it tear their faith down.  James was a strong and faithful soldier in God’s Army and although I didn’t know him, I feel very close to him and admire the sacred legacy he has left.  I am honored to have my own son named after such a sweet, good young man and am grateful for the way of honor and integrity James has paved for my baby boy to follow.  For us all to follow, really.  We love you James Nathaniel!


  1. Amy says:

    My heart hurts for your family, but what joy that James has an amazing legacy to follow. Sending prayers your way. <3

  2. buckway's says:

    I am so inspired by the Henrie’s. I hope I can have as much strength, endurance, and hope as they do some day. I feel so blessed to know such amazing people. I love you!

  3. erica says:

    I feel so inspired by this post! I think it is a truly remarkable thing when people can accept loss and make their own lives better and more full because of the hard things that they have experienced. It takes some seriously good-hearted, strong people to do that, in my opinion. Prayers for your family on this day!


  4. Keith, Ashley and Cassidy says:

    I have followed your blog for awhile now. My brothers are Derek and Chad both good friends of J.W. and James. This day, 6 years ago, I was living in Florida, a newlywed, and my heart absolutely tore in many pieces as I tried to comprehend the loss of yet another “brother” and this horrific news. Your family is utterly amazing in how they have continued on and are living a beautiful and inspiring life. What a legacy of a name your little one has, and if he is anything like the big James, he is amazing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your extended family always.

    Ashley (Butler) Drown

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